Emotion regulation

This week I participated on the next lecture named „The Zone Psyche” on the University of Social Sciences and Humanities. This time it was about emotions.I knew the theory of emotion regulation according to which there are 5 ways to deal with your emotions, in particular with negative ones. Imagine that you are in a room and you have to meet a person which you don't like.a) you can avoid this person and don't go to the second roomb) you can modify the situation, for example you can tell this person that he partsc) you can spread attention, you don't have contact with this person, you don't talk to, you don't interact but it is not pleasant for youd) you can try to change the opinion about this person, you can reinterprete the situation and tell you that maybe she is not so bad and you can take it, this situation demands a lot of emotional efforte) you can hold your reaction back, it means that you can't stand this person but you are talking to her, you smile and you pretend that everything is good, obviously, in this case your emotional effort is the biggest and this type of situation hurts youThis approach is represented by Gross and Thomas and I agree with it.

"The Newlyweds"

I’ve just finished to read „The Newlyweds” of Nell Freudenberger. I’m starting to miss about this lecture because it took me some time to read it. "The Newlyweds" has nearly 500 pages. Usually I don’t read the books about oriental culture but this time I made an exception and I’m happy for it.

This book is about Amina, 24 years old woman from Bangladesh who meets an American man on the portal dating. But it is not so romantic because the biggest aim of Amina is to have a good husband who can give her and her parents a possibility to live better, in the USA. She has to wait 3 years before receiving an American nationality. Then, she can invite her parents there. Despite of fact that Amina lives in America and she has everything, she is not happy. She has a challenge to live in a different culture. The book is long and it contains a lot of events from her and her parents’ life in America but also in Bangladesh.

We have also impression that she loves an ancient friend from childhood and she wants to quit everything in USA and live in Bangladesh with him.

The parents of Amina have big problems to receive a visa to the USA, but finally they have it. On the last pages of the book, we can read about how they leave Bangladesh and fly to America. For me these pages are extremely sad. It’s just a fiction, but how these poor people from the Orient will live in a completely different world ? Is it worth it ? I’d like to know how they would live in this new world.

I'm also wondering if there is still this desire from the part of the family so that woman has a good and rich husband. Because in this book they still choose a husband by different criteria. Or nowadays is it normal to marry someone who we love?

The reality In Bangladesh is strongly different than in Europe and it was interesting to find out something new. 

Harmful effects of television violence on children

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There are several reasons for which watching violent programs on televison can affect children's emotional well being. Firstly, children's fear can increase. It concernes especially girls who are more likely to be represented as victims of violence on television. Consequently, this can make them more fearful of the world around them. Next, children become desensitized towards violence in general. The aggressive acts are widely presented in some cartoons for children. Furthermore, violence is presented in a comical way and its real consequences are rarely exposed, the death is presented grotesquely and violence remains unpunished. As a result, children learn not to react to the evil and brutality. Finally, watching the drastic scenes can increase the likelihood of aggressive behavior, even with time deferred. A child develops the habit of aggressive response, which over time is difficult to change, in particular when the child has seen that another film hero is rewarded for aggressive behavior. In short, if kids watch some acts of violence in television, they can become more timorous, more aggressive and insensitive to the violence.